What is it that makes someone want mentorship for their personal life, work life, business life? I would like to share some tips from my personal life when I felt like I was in need of mentorship. Let’s just say it wasn’t easy to find. I turned to many sources, sometimes random, and surprisingly actually did end up finding people who helped me shape my life the way it is today.
Maybe you have an engineering degree and your job satisfaction is not quite there, maybe you wish you’d have a business background and looking for someone with life’s wisdom to share some tips, or is your already successful high tech firm going through some realignment right now? Are you not sure of what you want to do?
A time of change can be an interesting and introspective time for entrepreneurs and not only. Change can also be a scary thing. Our brain biologically is programmed to fear it.
A friend of mine once told me that I am struggling to lay out a plan for your whole life. Yes, he was right, I was (and sometimes am) trying to plan out my whole life. I don’t know if that’s normal, but when someone asks me where I see myself in 10 years, I had no idea really at that point.
But guess what…. Things change so we have to get use to it…. if you are prepared for and welcome changes then things go easier.
This is not to say that we should not make plans and set goals for ourselves but we should keep our eyes open to what is around us and watch for opportunities and better or more interesting aspects of things as they come along and not be so rigid that we cannot adapt. My mantra is that the universe has greater plans for us than we can imagine ourselves.
If you want to think about what you were meant to do, think about your passions. Do you or have you ever been doing something and lost all track of time? That is a sure indication that you were doing something that you love to do. If you do something you love it’s not really work.
It’s been like this since grade 10 for me that I was confused about what kind of career I wanted to pursue, so I decided to finally accept that I’ve got a problem here and I can’t solve it on my own. Mentors helped me to gain clarity. An engineer that I got to speak to told me that since he can remember, he was building things. Now he has his 2 engineering companies. So as you see, sometimes it is from our childhood that we learn about what it is that we were meant to do.
So, what is it that I was doing when I was little? Several things: drawing, obsession with animals, playing with numbers in my head. Now, when I told my parents that I want to be an artist, a veterinarian, or a math professor, I ended up with some kind of an instruction not to do that because it wouldn’t be a good thing to do. So, being an obedient child, I’d put a big X on those things right there. I understand now that those were the passions that I really was actually supposed to pursue.
I realize that I’ve done a very rough mistake as well since my school years. I equated hard work and challenge with value. As a result, things that came naturally to me and easily (even though majority of people would struggle with it), I didn’t see as valuable.
I know though for sure what I don’t like. It’s any type of frames and limits, for example a 9 – 5 job with a 3 wk vacation. I can work very hard, but I find it hard to give up my freedom. Perhaps from this point I realized that my future was to be an entrepreneur, not a clerk at a desk or a programmer in a cubicle. The most liberating option I see is to start my own business.
Also, I know that I want to give back to society and involve myself in some type of charity work (for example, helping 3rd world countries). But in order to be efficient in actually breaking up the cycle, I realize that I will need very strong finances. There is another good reason to pursue entrepreneurship for me, as it may lead to more money.